Get Your Girl Back in 5 Easy Steps

So, you want to know how to get your girl back. Relationships are fragile bonds that need a lot of attention to be built up and cared for on the long term in order to keep them healthy. But, when a break up occurs, only one or two reasons are involved almost every time (or a combination of the two).

The first scenario has to do with a mistake that you or your ex made (such as, cheating, for instance). The second possibility has to do with a loss of attraction (which means your ex is not that into you anymore providing you are the dumped one).

But the reality is that, no matter what the reasons for the break up were, the steps for getting your girl back are pretty much the same, and here they are:

Step 1: Be strong. "No one needs the needy" says an old saying and it can be very well applied to broken relationships too. Neediness sucks all the energy from you and everybody around you like a vampire. No one wants to be around a desperate and needy person, keep that in mind. Acting desperate and insecure around your ex will only confirm to them that they made the right decision leaving you.

Step 2: Break contact. Minimize communication with your ex girlfriend for at least three to four weeks. This prevents you from acting needy and depressed around your ex, while giving you time to recover and setting the stage for the phone call (no yet, please!) and the big meet-up. Absolutely no initiating contact with her. No calls, no text messages, no emails, no IMs. But this is no easy task. Even if you don't actually have to do anything, you will hate it. A lot. Because you will miss her and there's a lot of emotional strength involved in making sure you keep the distance. But, guess what! She will probably miss you too. Because people tend to only realize the value of something when it's gone. This will also make your apology a lot more effective (if you have something to apologize for - if you don't, please, DON'T find something to apologize for! This will only make your situation worse).

Step 3: Analyse your relationship. Figure out what went wrong. Focus on the negative (even if, especially at this point, you will tend to forget everything that didn't work out). Be objective. Ask yourself if you really want to get back with her (and no, this is not a stupid question, even if you are looking for information on how to get her back!). Many people tend to become blind during a break up and only realize the wrong parts when they are back in the toxic relationship.

Step 4: Get your life back. Start having massive fun. Call your friends - it's time to catch up with them. Maybe you want to go on that trip that you've always dreamed of. Take lots of pictures and upload them on your profile (maybe you're using sites like Facebook, Hi5, Myspace etc.). This will play an important part in getting her back. She will then see that you are fine without her too. And that's a good thing.

Step 5: The phone call that will rock her world. If she doesn't contact you after more than a month, try contacting her and have a very light conversation. Please, don't bring up your past relationship. Don't brag about how many women you are sleeping with or dating (that's lame - only losers brag) and don't ask her if she's with someone else. Tell her that you just wanted to see if she's ok and that, maybe at some point, you can be friends. Just keep it light and try to avoid falling into an argument with her (logic is the killer of attraction, keep that in mind).

This should set the stage for the big meet-up. But be aware! This is where you can screw up everything (and for good!) if you're not careful. You need to have a plan and stick to it.

So, if you liked the kind of tips in this article, I'll walk you through this and show you exactly what you need to do (and say). My methods include dirty psychological tricks, controversial tactics, curiosity and conversational hypnosis. At the end, you will be able to get your girl back in your arms in 30 days or less guaranteed.

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